Break ups are hard. Most people who go through a significant break up, deal with it similar to a death, the loss of someone you love, who you thought you would have for the rest of your life. The father of your children, or the woman you were going to grow old with because you loved her, and because she will probably still be hot after kids. When a deep love like this comes to an end, the devastation can be catastrophic. However, there are some factors at play in a Lesbian break up that make it extra devastating…. See, lesbians are by nature, a nesting and monogamous people.